Being unattentive

A couple of days ago I heard something devestating. I was talking to a friend and she told me something over the phone that broke my heart. All night long I kept thinking about it, what could I as a friend have done to help her? No matter how hard I keep thinking about it I still can't seem to find the answer, there really isn't much anyone can do for a person if that person refuses to accept help. But this friend of mine was thankfully strong enough to handle the problem all by herself... I feel proud, I feel thankful but most of all I feel sorry. I'm sorry for not being where I was needed. Friend after friend has told me things about them lately that was going on with them a long time ago, things they never told me when they actually still had the problem... I guess they didn't feel like I was someone they could talk to but even though they didn't tell me I should've known somehow, I should've been more attentive. Up to this point it's been four friends surprising me with something from the past. How ignorant could I have been not to notice? Biane Teta. Biane Jandi. Biane Namoose. Biane Dodo. XoXo